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Men and responsibilities, what the Bible says

The Bible shows us that God has made men and women equal in design but different in order to complement one another.

In Ephesians 1-4, the Apostle Paul reminds us of whom we are in Christ and to “walk in a manner worthy of your calling.” He also encourages us to allow the Spirit of God to control our lives and to abide in Him. When we’re living this way, then the evidence of our behavior is this:

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Eph 5:21, NIV)

Our roles as husbands and wives begin with submitting to Christ and mutually submittingto one another. Submitting or being “subject” to one another means that we desire to get less than what we deserve. It’s about putting the other person’s needs above our own.

Mutual submission is a picture of two people who say, “I want what’s best for you.”

Think of it in terms of a dance between a man and a woman where the choreographer determines who takes which steps and how they move in unison.

In this “dance of marriage,” the choreographer is the Holy Spirit, and the dance floor is mutual submission — the space in which both dance partners have freedom to move.

Often, we get so fixated on our roles in marriage (who gets to lead and who gets to follow) that we miss the main point. Marriage should always function within the context of mutual submission. This requires that both husbands and wives come to the marriage asking each other: “ How can I love you more? How can I help make you more successful? How can I serve you?”

It’s within this context that we learn about the specific roles of a husband.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her… So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church. (Eph. 5:25, 28-30 NASB)

So, what’s our roles as husbands?

It’s to love our wives by nourishing and cherishing her. Nourishing means to provide for her, be devoted to her, and to help her to become the person that God intended for her to become. Cherishing her means to protect her and help her to feel safe and secure.

As husbands, we’re responsible for loving our wives the way Christ loves the Church. And, guys! Let me assure you that this is an impossible job! That’s why we can’t do it alone. We need to be dependent not only on the word of God, but also on the Spirit of God to change us so that we can love our wives the way He wants us to love them.

So, how about you? Are you a man who’s struggling in your marriage? Do you want to know more about what your role looks like as a husband? I’d like to encourage you to discover God’s design for how to have a healthy marriage.


by Nii Odartey Lamptey

Connexional MYF Vice Cahirman

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